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                    <h1>
                        Spice For Spouse</h1>
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                            Five Essential Traits for Strong Marriage
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                        If you&rsquo;re single, planning to get married&nbsp; or engaged - and you&rsquo;re
                        looking toward marriage, one of the best things you can do for yourself and the
                        one you love is to know what you want and need in a marriage partner.</p>
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                        The &nbsp;helpful ways to prepare, is to consider the five building blocks, the
                        5 Cs. These essential traits will connect your hearts and help you to build a strong
                        marriage for years to come. Ask yourself the questions listed below about your own
                        relationship and pray about God&rsquo;s best for you.</p>
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                        <strong>I. Concord</strong></p>
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                        As a person of faith, choosing a marriage partner who is also a Christ-follower
                        is crucial. Not only does God&rsquo;s word calls us to marry someone who follows
                        God (and not an unbeliever), it&rsquo;s also the foundation for our entire relationship.
                        Just as a house built with a solid foundation will enable the home to stand strong,
                        your foundation of shared faith will honor God and keep your house of love strong
                        during the storms of life to assure the serenity and security.</p>
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                        Beyond &ldquo;knowing Christ personally,&rdquo; what does a shared faith mean to
                        you on a practical level? Is he mature in his faith? Is she committed to spiritual
                        growth? Will you be able to pray together as a couple? Attend church together? How
                        will your faith influence decision-making in your life together?</p>
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                        A God-centered, lasting love begins with God in the center. When hard times come
                        or you need to make difficult choices, you are not alone. As a couple, you can go
                        to Him in prayer and know that God can draw you closer to Himself and to each other.</p>
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                        <strong>II. COmmunication</strong></p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Communication is essential to any good relationship. Without it, most people wither
                        away like an iris in the hot summer sun.</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Men and women communicate differently. Most often, men say that the purpose of talking
                        is to &ldquo;report&rdquo; or discuss facts. On the other hand, most women like
                        to build &ldquo;rapport&rdquo; and make a connection.</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Effective communication includes talking and listening&mdash;it&rsquo;s a two-way
                        dialog. Sharing deeply builds emotional intimacy, which leads to greater connection
                        and closeness.</p>
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                        What kind of communication is important to you in a relationship? How do you handle
                        conflict? How do you manage your emotions, deal with differences, or handle anger?
                        These are important questions to ask yourself and to consider how the person you
                        love handles them. The better you communicate with each other, the better your relationship
                        will become.</p>
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                        <strong>III. Character</strong></p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Character refers to temperament, personality and moral fiber. Does he have integrity?
                        Does she keep promises? How far your personalities match with each other? Are your
                        temperaments complementary? Every couple is different, and you don&rsquo;t have
                        to think alike in all areas of life. In fact, God designed us to &ldquo;complement&rdquo;
                        or balance each other in marriage. Your strengths and growth areas may be just what
                        he needs and vice versa.</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Know what&rsquo;s important to you. What can you live with? What can&rsquo;t you
                        live without? When you know, how someone with a different personality type thinks
                        and acts, you can approach situations with more understanding and work more easily
                        through conflict.</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Success in marriage is not finding the right partner, but becoming the right partner.</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        &nbsp;Despite our differences in personality and gender, it&rsquo;s good to remember
                        that marriage is God&rsquo;s idea. Read <strong>1 Peter 3</strong> about how husbands
                        and wives are to treat each other&mdash;with love, honor and respect&mdash;key character
                        traits for both men and women.</p>
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                        <strong>IV. Chemistry</strong></p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Chemistry is another word for attraction&mdash;not just physical (although that
                        plays into it), but also emotional and spiritual chemistry. Is he handsome in your
                        eyes? Does she have other qualities that appeal to you besides her looks? Is there
                        that intangible &ldquo;certain something&rdquo; that makes you click as a couple?</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Don&rsquo;t base your choice of a marriage partner solely upon how someone looks
                        on the outside. While the attraction factor is important, and it needs to be there,
                        true beauty is more than a perfect smile or fit body. It&rsquo;s comprised of both
                        inner qualities (like a good sense of humor and how that person makes you feel)
                        and outer qualities. Chemistry is just one of the essential five C&rsquo;s for a
                        healthy and fulfilling match; it&rsquo;s one piece of the entire love puzzle.</p>
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                        <strong>V. Calling</strong></p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Calling is the term I&rsquo;ll use here for God&rsquo;s will for your relationship.
                        Has God called you to a marriage relationship with this person or not? Are you going
                        in the same direction? Just because you like someone, it doesn&rsquo;t always mean
                        you will marry him or her. If you have all four of the five C&rsquo;s, and God is
                        not leading both of you to be together for the long term, it will never work. He
                        may have different life paths for you.</p>
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                        Finally, know that the patterns you begin in your relationship while planning to
                        marry - like the way you treat each other&mdash; will grow throughout your engagement
                        and married life. Are they healthy? Are they godly?</p>
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                        Start with the basics. Be kind. Treat each other with love and respect. Don&rsquo;t
                        nag the other person, but instead talk to God about what&rsquo;s bothering you and
                        let God change them. Read books on marriage topics. Talk to people who&rsquo;ve
                        been married for years and listen to their hard-won wisdom. Pray together. Nurture
                        the relationship. And enjoy each other!</p>
                    <p class="para">
                        Somebody once said, &ldquo;Marriage is a series of adjustments.&rdquo; You can&rsquo;t
                        know all the answers today, and you can&rsquo;t fathom how your life will change
                        over the years, but you can start with the most solid foundation possible, a relationship
                        based upon God&rsquo;s principles. On His Words you can rely.</p>
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